When it comes to social media expectations and boundaries for your kid, try setting agreements, not rules: both parties will win! Agreements empower you and your kid to set appropriate expectations for their social media usage together. Rules are dictated by parents and your child must abide by your standards. And with social media, agreements may prove to be a better route. With that said, here are six tips to help guide your agreements:
1) No Surprises…Both Ways.
Three major things your kid wants: freedom, privacy, and ownership. So as a parent, communicate clear intentions as to why you want to be involved with your son/daughter’s social media involvement. But “no surprises” goes both ways; they don’t need to hide things from you on social media.
2) Supervision instead of Surveillance
Supervision means paying attention whereas surveillance means expecting something to go wrong. Agree to believe the best about each other.
“Treat kids as innocent until proven guilty, not the other way around.” Right Click
3) Entitlement vs. Privilege
You are not uncool or ancient for establishing this agreement: you’re choosing to be wise and smart.
“If your child gets the privilege, you get to set the boundaries.” Sissy Goff
4) Mutual Respect
Respect your child’s privacy. Doing so doesn’t mean you can’t monitor or supervise their social media usage, but respect their privacy as much as you can. Your son or daughter should respect your position as their parent and your reasoning for inspecting their phone.
5) Freedom Within Boundaries
Your child wants freedom and you want them to make smart choices. So when it comes to social media you can establish boundaries and they can have freedoms within those boundaries. If your kid wants more freedom, then they need to prove that they are ready for it.
6) Appropriate Consequences for Breaking Agreements
Set clear, appropriate, and agreeable expectations of what the consequences will be if your child breaks an agreement. Keep in mind that not all punishments or consequences fit every “crime.”
There you have it, six tips to help guide agreements set between you and your kid. And remember, when you set agreements instead of rules, bothparties win and will get the results they want: dignity, respect and a peace of mind.
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